Happy Father's Day - Meet Ivan!
1. Hi there Ivan! Thank you for agreeing to having this interview with us. Would you like to introduce yourself?
Hi. My name is Ivan, and I am a father of an adorable 5-year-old girl.
2. What do you think it means to be a good father?
To me, being a good father means to be always there for my child whenever she needs me, so that she can always feel secure. Fathers also play an important role of being the pillar of strength in the family.
3. How has the experience of fatherhood been for you? Best/worst moments?
I believe most fathers will agree that fatherhood is very tiring yet rewarding at the same time. Having to wake up in the middle of the night to help change the bedsheets when her diaper overflows is no joke. Yet nothing beats seeing my girl smile, hearing her laugh and utter something nonsensical that exudes pure innocence. I am always amused by some of the things she says sometimes. The best moment is definitely when my girl calls me “papa” for the first time.
4. Do you think that fathers are underappreciated?
I think fathers are getting more recognised these days compared to years ago. People understand the multiple roles that fathers can play in the family in the modern society besides being the breadwinner.
5. What are the things that dads do “behind the scenes” that are not normally known?
I always do things that are known (haha). Jokes aside, I feel that there is a general perception that mothers sacrifice and do a lot more for the children. But the truth is that dads do contribute as much, if not more. I have helped my wife with the baby’s nightly feeds, changed the soiled diaper and even pat her to sleep. Now that she is older, I am also a storyteller, saying made-up bedtime stories to her before she sleeps.
6. What advice would you give to new fathers? Or something you wish you knew before becoming a father?
For first time dads, do not be too anxious. There is never enough theory training that can prepare you for what is to come. Just pickup and learn along the way. The most important thing is to provide as much support to your wife as possible, especially during the period after she had just given birth. Also, as the child is growing up, try to strike a balance between being strict and lenient, so that your child can still have fun while being disciplined.